One of my favorite videos by Brene' Brown is her blame video. In this video she discusses how it is much easier to blame someone else than it is to take personal accountability. What the video does not discuss is how it feels when we blame ourselves and hold onto that discomfort and pain. Usually we are doing some combination of blaming ourselves and someone else which can make things complicated and murky. Using HeartMath's Coherent Communication technique followed by the Freeze Frame technique can provide you with clarity and ease in a stressful situation. When you understand the root of your own discomfort you can work through it holistically. Understanding that the only thing that matters is if you can forgive yourself. Once you forgive yourself, you can forgive the other person and may find that you weren't actually mad at them in the first place. This is when we're able to use empathy. Her empathy video is my absolute favorite. I have shared it with many people I love only to find that perhaps I wasn't being treated with empathy because I wasn't practicing it within myself. If we practice enough we become so steady that nothing can shake us off course. I'm still practicing, knowing that it takes a long time. When we practice these techniques together it is a caring exchange that helps both of us grow and feel rewarded. Please contact me if you would like to be more gentle with yourself and others. If payment is an issue please let me know. I feel that it's most important that I share these techniques and skills as much as possible.